The recent Toast article “Literary Trysts It Gives Me Great Joy to Think About: Oscar Wilde and Walt Whitman” set off a flurry of Facebook shares and likes and a tempest of tweets and retweets. The idea of these two gay literary icons getting together truly was too delicious not to think about.
But Oscar and Uncle Walt were not the only gay writers — past and present — known for their activity between the sheets as well as between the covers. From various biographies, diaries, and memoirs, we know about poet Edna St. Vincent Millay’s intoxicating effect on her fellow female students at Vassar, author Michel Foucault’s penchant for S&M clubs, City of Night author John Rechy’s past as a hustling muscle daddy, and the dirt Edmund White dishes on himself in My Lives and City Boy.
Here are some of the gay past’s greatest writer-to-writer hookups — and a couple of Missed Connections.
The 46-year-old Hawthorne met the 31-year-old Melville for the first time in Stockbridge, Mass., at a picnic in August 1850. A sudden thunderstorm forced everyone inside, giving the pair a chance to become better acquainted. Two days later Hawthorne wrote to a friend, “I liked Melville so much that I have asked him to spend a few days with me.” This would be the first of a series of visits and letters, which continued until the gradual cooling off of their friendship late in 1852.
Over the top as always, in his 1850 review of Hawthorne’s story collection Mosses from an Old Manse, Melville wrote, “…already I feel that this Hawthorne has dropped germinous seeds into my soul. He expands and deepens down, the more I contemplate him; and further and further, shoots his strong New England roots in the hot soil of my Southern soul.”
Even more “seeds” were shot into Melville after the publication of Moby-Dick in 1851 — which was dedicated “To Nathaniel Hawthorne: In token of my admiration for his genius.” Hawthorne’s letter to Melville about the novel has been lost, but Melville’s answer speaks of the effect the letter had on him:
“I felt pantheist then — your heart beat in my ribs and mine in yours, and both in God’s. … Whence come you, Hawthorne? By what right do you drink from my flagon of life? And when I put it to my lips — lo, they are yours and not mine. … Hence this infinite fraternity of feeling. … Ah! It’s a long stage, and no inn in sight, and night coming, and the body cold. But with you for a passenger, I am content and can be happy…”
Can we assume that where there are “germanous seeds,” shooting roots, beating hearts, and lips, there may also have been fire as well?
Thanks to Justin Spring’s award-winning biography Secret Historian, we now know that in addition to being a professor, novelist, pioneering tattoo artist, and author of high-octane porn under the pseudonym Phil Andros, Samuel Steward was also a voracious sexual being. He kept a lifelong tally and voluminous notes on his activities, recording thousands of encounters with men (including for and with Dr. Alfred Kinsey — talk about doing it for science!).
On his first trip to Europe in 1937, Steward made a point of sleeping with Lord Alfred Douglas so that “through physical contact with Douglas he might establish physical contact, by extension, with his great literary hero Oscar Wilde.” The encounter itself was less than thrilling to the twentysomething Steward:
“Lord Alfred was by then sixty-seven, and in anyone’s book that’s old. To go to bed with him was hardly the most attractive prospect in the world — it was terrifying, even repulsive. But if I wanted to link myself to Oscar Wilde… there was no other way.”
Douglas had also become a Catholic and had given up his “homosexual leanings and entanglements…sins of the flesh were obnoxious and uninteresting.” Within an hour and a half after opening a bottle of gin, however:
“We were in bed, the Church renounced, conscience vanquished, inhibitions overcome, revulsion conquered, pledges and vows and British laws all forgotten. Head down, my lips where Oscar’s had been, I knew that I had won. … After I finished my ministrations and settled back, his hand stole down to clamp itself around me. It began to move gently. … ‘You really needn’t have gone to all that trouble, since this is almost all Oscar and I ever did with each other … We used to get boys for each other … We kissed a lot, but not much more.’”
Also while he was in Europe, Steward met the deeply closeted Thornton Wilder. Between working on the play that would ultimately become Our Town, Wilder tutored the young Steward in how to “reconcile himself” to being gay:
“After this worldly intellectual preparation, sort of like tenderizing a tough cube steak, we climbed into bed together, myself half-drunk as I had to be in those days to have an encounter. Thornton went about sex almost as if he were looking the other way, doing something else, and nothing happened that could be prosecuted anywhere, unless frottage can be called a crime. There was never any kissing. On top of me, and after ninety seconds and a dozen strokes against my belly, he ejaculated. At this he sprang from our bed of roses and exclaimed in his rapid way: ‘Didntyoucome? Didntyoucome’? No, I didn’t.”
In spite of this less-than-glowing review, he and Wilder did it again and again and again — according to Steward’s detailed files, at least 25 more times!
Although Dalí later denied anything physical actually happened between himself and Spain’s greatest poet, something was going on between him and Federico García Lorca.
They met in 1923 when Dalí arrived in Madrid to study at the Academy of San Fernando’s Special School of Drawing and was “captivated by Lorca.” The relationship grew as their admiration for each other and their influence over each other’s work intensified. Lorca’s 1925 “Ode to Salvador Dalí” captured his deep feelings for the artist. Dali’s obsession had him creating paintings where he layered Lorca’s features over his own or placed one man’s face in the other’s shadow. Lorca’s head floats in Dalí’s paintings from that time, as in “Little Ashes,” source of the title of the 2008 film about their relationship starring Robert Pattinson as Dalí and Javier Beltrán as Lorca.
Lorca stayed with Dalí’s family in the coastal village of Cadaqués, walking through town, laughing with Dalí’s sister Ana María, wandering the beach, and watching each other work. By 1928, however, they were both personally and artistically estranged from each other, moving in two different directions, only to meet briefly once more in 1935.
While there is little information about what caused the separation, it most likely had to do with their fear and discomfort around the feelings for each other they both struggled with. Both were troubled by their obsession with the other. In typically over-the-top language, Dalí, who married in 1934, denied their relationship ever became physical and blamed the rift on Lorca making a pass at him.
“He was homosexual, as everyone knows, and madly in love with me,” he said, according to Alain Bosquet’s 1969 Conversations with Dalí. “He tried to screw me twice… I was extremely annoyed, because I wasn’t homosexual, and I wasn’t interested in giving in. Besides, it hurts. So nothing came of it. But I felt awfully flattered vis-à-vis the prestige. Deep down I felt that he was a great poet and that I owe him a tiny bit of the Divine Dalí’s asshole.”
Some who knew the artist think he was exaggerating the truth to shock and amuse his admirers, while others think Dalí was asexual with a dislike for being touched. Others also implicate director Luis Buñuel, who “was appalled by the intensity of Dalí’s attachment to Lorca” and urged Dalí to join him and other surrealists in Paris and get away from the poet.
While it’s unclear exactly how far Dalí went along with Lorca’s affections, one wishes to have been a fly on the wall when the Spanish poet met American counterpart Hart Crane in Brooklyn in 1929. Lorca was in New York to attend Columbia University — but wound up exploring the city and composing his masterpiece Poet in New York instead of going to class. Crane had published his first book, White Buildings, in 1926, and was working on his own magnum opus, The Bridge. A mutual friend, Puerto Rican intellectual Angel Flores, took Lorca to meet Crane, and they found him in his Brooklyn apartment drunk — along with a half-dozen inebriated sailors. According to Lorca’s biographer Leslie Stanton:
“Neither writer could speak the other’s language, but with Flores’ help they managed to communicate and eventually got along in Pidgin English. Crane asked if Lorca would like to stay on that afternoon, and Lorca indicated that he would. Tactfully, Flores left. On his way out the door, he glanced back and saw Crane in the midst of one group of sailors, telling jokes, and Lorca in the midst of another, drinking whisky. Flores never learned what happened after his departure.”
That’s OK, Angel — we now have an entire subgenre of the gay porn industry devoted to imagining what happened next.
Before he turned to fiction, The Sheltering Sky author Paul Bowles was a promising young composer. Beginning in 1929, one of his teachers was Aaron Copland. Copland gave Bowles lessons practically every day, and in 1931, as the two got closer, suggested that they go to Berlin together to escape the distractions of New York City.
In August, the two left Europe for Morocco, and it was on the crossing that Copland made his move. As Bowles later told his biographer Virginia Spencer Carr:
“At this point in my life I had never had what I considered real sex with anyone, male or female. On our first night out, Aaron seduced me. I hated it, and I vowed that never again would I allow myself to be abused in this manner. Even worse, Aaron was my teacher, and sex should not have been a part of our relationship.”
However he felt at the time, Bowles continued to study with Copland, and apparently pine for him a bit as well. “I live in hopes of hearing from Aaron, but he never writes, and I have no idea even what country he is in,” Bowles wrote in 1933 after Copland had left. By this time, however, Copland was traveling with violinist, Victor Craft, who would be Copland’s on-again, off-again partner for much of the rest of his life.
“One of the benefits of lecture tours was the opportunity they provided for love affairs.” —May Sarton
Gay male writers were not the only ones burning up the sheets. In her youth, poet and novelist May Sarton was accused by one of her numerous lovers of “sexual and emotional promiscuity.” In fact, May was simply a girl in love with love:
“It always seems like an angel coming in, you know, it always seems so beautiful and right and I never think, ‘Oh, I mustn’t do this, it’s wrong.’ It always seems to me absolutely the most beautiful thing that ever happened.”
Her biographer Margot Peters writes, “Love also focused her and made the poems come. That’s why she never wanted to be the passive beloved. Like Don Juan, she needed to conquer.”
One of those conquered was fellow poet Muriel Rukeyser. “That was a brief and flaring and bitter time,” Rukeyser wrote to Sarton in 1943. “At the glimpses of your wish I sprang to myself, and the room flared into your face and your throat and your body…You burned on my life, not like fire that leaves a burn, but like some pain of burning that leaves fire. Darling… find me when you are ready.” Sadly, however, May and Muriel proved to be incompatible, and their affair didn’t last. According to Peters, “For May, sexual satisfaction was secondary to emotional exaltation. One orgasm per evening satisfied her. Muriel liked a lot of sex with a variety of people. More than once, May sat in the hall while Muriel entertained a lover behind the locked door.”
Muriel found May equally impossible because Sarton always seemed to have what we would now call “a side piece” hanging around. Rukeyser wrote:
“You have always had someone in reserve if things didn’t go well with whomever you are with at the moment, just as you once told me you make two or three dates for dinner and then break the two which at the last minute you decide are less that you want…it is really not much good to insist that you love someone and at the same time be insisting to someone else that you love them in the same way.”
May Sarton wasn’t the only queer author who had a partner who liked to party. Poet W. H. Auden’s long-term partner Chester Kallman was notorious for bringing tricks back to the St. Mark’s Place apartment the two shared. In 1957, after listening to one of Kallman’s graphic descriptions of his hookup with a hustler, poet Frank O’Hara said to a friend, “Promise me something. If you ever catch me talking the way Chester did tonight, get a gun and shoot me. Don’t ask me if I want to be shot, just shoot me.”
Auden might have been better off attempting to continue his relationship with A Single Man novelist Christopher Isherwood.
In his autobiography, Christopher and his Kind, Isherwood makes a casual reference to the fact that by 1937 he and Auden “had been going to bed together, unromantically but with much pleasure, for the past ten years, whenever an opportunity offered itself.” While this friends-with-benefits arrangement may have worked out for Isherwood, it seems likely that Auden was in love with him and wanted more from the relationship. Auden listed their initial meeting in 1926, when he was 19 years old, as one of the “great emotional milestones” of his life. Isherwood, however, preferred not to notice, later insisting that the relationship was “rooted in schoolboy memories” and “adolescent.” Part of this may have been due to the fact that because both writers were turned on by younger men. Both began long-term relationships with men significantly younger — the 48-year-old Isherwood met lifelong partner Don Bachardy when he was 16; Auden met his partner Chester Kallman when Kallman was 18 and Auden was 32.
Barthé at work on sculptures.
Many of the well-known writers of the Harlem Renaissance either were or were rumored to have been queer. Most were very discreet about what they did behind closed doors. Some, however, left behind hints at what was going on — or who was chasing whom.
Writer and artist Richard Bruce Nugent was the author of the first openly gay work of fiction by an African-American, the short story “Smoke, Lillies and Jade,” published in 1926, and the basis for part of Isaac Julien’s film Looking for Langston. One of the few Harlem Renaissance figures to lead a non-closeted life, a fictionalized older version of Nugent, played by Roger Robinson, is befriended by an art student played by Anthony Mackie in Rodney Evans’ 2004 film Brother to Brother.
Nugent was propositioned by Howard University professor and first African-American Rhodes scholar Alain Locke when he went to visit the scholar in Washington, D.C.:
“A professor of philosophy and a person old enough to be your father doesn’t lie on a bed in their shorts and say, ‘Do anything you want.’ What can you do except be embarrassed? And a little disappointed in the person who did it. I was a lot disappointed. I was traumatized by it.”
Nugent and Locke remained friends, however, and Locke, playing matchmaker, connected Bruce up with young artist Richmond Barthé. Unfortunately for Locke, this was in the days before cell phone cameras and homemade porn, for it appears the good professor would have loved to have a clip of the two together.
“I am glad to say that it is without jealousy or envy that I can be happy in your joy – for I love you both – and look forward to warming my own soul a bit at the fire of your youth and at least realizing by proxy some of my own unfulfilled ambitions…”
A talented and prolific sculptor, Barthé attended a performance of the play Porgy (the basis for Porgy and Bess) and fell instantly in love, writing 50 years later, “You have been my beloved friend since 1927 when the curtain went up on you in the center of that stage in Chicago. I love you with the kind of love that will last forever…”
While the love may have lasted, the relationship didn’t. Nugent’s promiscuity didn’t mesh well with Barthé’s circumspection about his orientation and desire for public recognition, which would have been impossible had he continued a relationship with the very open Nugent.
Originally from Guyana, writer Eric Walrond developed a one-way crush on poet Countee Cullen in the mid-1920s. Writing to Alain Locke, Cullen wrote of a car trip he and Walrond took, along with friend Harold Jackman, a Jazz Age version of He’s Not That Into You.
“He was most surprisingly sympathetic, and aggressive, but I am afraid he offers no lasting solution. He is too exacting (I almost said abandoned) and there are some concessions I shall never make.”
In fact, Cullen was more interested in one of Locke’s students, Llewellyn Ransom, although after a few months, Walrond might have been OK as Mr. Right Now if Mr. Right wasn’t available. Writing to Locke, Cullen asked:
“How long before you see L.R. (Llewellyn Ransom) again?… Please pardon my urgency, but I must have an adjustment as soon as possible, or I shall be driven to recourse with E.W. and that I fear…”
The twice-married Cullen was in need of “adjustments” with men through much of his life, especially on his weekly “nights out,” including dancer turned Harlem Afro-American social life reporter Edward Perry.
Cullen tried to return the matchmaking favor by connecting Alain Locke with the young Langston Hughes. Cullen had approached the cagey and super-secretive fellow poet, but had no luck. Locke began his campaign via U.S. Mail, dropping hints about his “early infatuation with Greek ideals of life” and being “caught up early in the coils of classicism.” Locke may have gone too far, however, after he learned that Hughes was working on a ship — he said he would love to meet the whole crew and that he adored sailors. Langston pretended not to understand what was meant by this double entendre, but later teased Locke with references to “paganism,” “a little Greenwich Village of our own,” and the homoerotic “Calamus” poems in Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass.
Locke and Hughes did not actually meet until 18 months later, in Paris in 1923. Locke introduced Hughes to Paris culture, and he continued to press the younger man. Hughes continued to be reluctant. According to biographer Arnold Rampersad:
“Both men knew that Locke still held one card – his possible usefulness to Hughes in entering Howard University. Barely hidden in the behavior of both men was an element of calculation and strategy. Hughes wanted to get into Howard; Locke wanted Hughes in bed. Evidently they agreed but without Langston giving in the Locke’s proposition) that Hughes would enter the school and live at Locke’s home. To some extent, this plan reflected Locke’s caring for Hughes; to some extent it was only bait. At which Langston, innocent and yet wily and self-protective, sniffed with great caution. He agreed to meet Locke in Italy later in the summer… Locke’s mind was set on Venice and the consummation of their affair.”
Poor Alain Locke! Although he and Langston visited Juliet’s tomb in Verona, rode in gondolas along the canals, and watched fireworks, Hughes continued to hold him off. Five days with Locke proved too be too much for him, and the plan of living with him if he went to Howard: “Venice with Locke talking, always talking, was like a surfeit of spumoni.” Hughes began to wander into the less touristy parts of the city by himself.
Leaving Italy for France on the same train but not together, Hughes was robbed of his money and passport. Leaving Langston some money, Locke continued on so he wouldn’t miss the boat back to America. A few weeks later, Hughes managed to get work on a boat heading to New York.
Beat Poet Allen Ginsberg has the distinction of having slept with both the author of On the Road, Jack Kerouac, and its “muse,” Neal Cassady. Ginsberg “came out” to Kerouac in 1946, declaring, “You know I love you, and I want to sleep with you, and I really like men” one night as they shared a room together. Kerouac responded with, “Oh no…” then rolled over and went to sleep. Ginsberg was glad not to be completely rejected, and within a year he “blew him [Kerouac] a couple of times” and was on the receiving end of a drunken Kerouac BJ years later, but there was never any great sexual charge between them. Later, as Ginsberg became more open about his sexuality and Kerouac would complain about what “his public” would think about him, Ginsberg had to remind Kerouac of the times he’d drunkenly challenged Ginsberg with phrases like “C’mon, I’ll fuck you.”
Ginsberg had more success with Neal Cassady, who claimed to need sex every day to live — no matter where he got it. Ginsberg shared a “weekend of debauchery” with Cassady in early 1947 a few days after Cassady had had a fight with his wife. Cassady then disappeared for two days, leaving Ginsberg filled with self-pity. They would see each other intermittently until Cassady’s departure from New York in March of that year. Horny and insecure during the breaks between seeing him, Ginsberg would list all the possible combinations of sexual positions he wanted to try when they got together again:
“Try him laying me again, try breast to breast position, try 69 again coming both at once, try sitting on his chest and making him blow me, try laying his mouth, French kissing, etc., make him give me a trip around the world….Have I guts? Trip around the world, complete, winding up with blow job. No, I want some real hip sex, what is it?”
Gore Vidal met and flirted with Jack Kerouac in 1949 at, surprisingly, the Metropolitan Opera where Kerouac was with his publisher. They met again in 1953. In his memoir, Palimpest, Vidal describes discussing what happened with Kerouac during his final meeting with Allen Ginsberg in 1994.
“Jack bought (William S.) Burroughs and me together at the San Remo, on the edge of Greenwich Village. Hot night. Jack was manic. Sea captain’s hat. T-shirt. Like Marlon Brando in A Streetcar Named Desire. Drinking beer. Burroughs looked like a traveling salesman who had traveled too far in a wrinkled gray suit. He had published a good novel, Junkie under the name William Lee… Bill was quiet. Jack was loud. I suppose he was drunk.”
Kerouac started flirting with Vidal. The three were supposed to go bar-hopping together, but Burroughs dropped out. Then Jack suggested the two of them get a room. They went to the Chelsea Hotel, where they signed their own names. Vidal wrote, “Grandly, I told the bemused clerk that this register would become famous… I’ve often wondered what did happen to it… Lust aside, we both thought, even then (this was before On the Road), that we owed it to literary history to couple.”
Although everyone agrees Kerouac was drunk, the real story of what happened next varies depending on who tells it, and when. Ginsberg’s biographer Bill Morgan says Kerouac spent the night sleeping in the bathtub. In a 1994 interview, Vidal said, “As everybody knows, I fucked Kerouac.” Vidal writes that Ginsberg told him, “Jack was rather proud of the fact that he blew you… Allen sounded a bit sad as we assembled our common memories over tea in the Hollywood Hills.”
At the end of August 1953, William S. Burroughs arrived on Allen Ginsberg’s doorstep, asking if he could stay with him “briefly” — and wound up staying three months. Ginsberg enjoyed having him around at first and enjoyed their conversations. However, as Bill Morgan writes:
“William was seriously in love with Allen and was driven by his long pent-up desire to be with him. Allen preferred to think of it as a marriage of two minds, but William wanted a physical union, as well as an intellectual one. He pressed Allen continually for sex until Allen was forced to say that he wasn’t interested in William that way. He didn’t do it in a gentle way either, but blurted out that he ‘didn’t want his ugly old cock’ anywhere near him. That comment broke Burroughs’s heart, and Allen regretted his insensitivity for the rest of his life.”
Ginsberg also slept with poet Frank O’Hara — as in actual sleeping. After a night of too much drinking at the Cedar Bar, in 1958, Ginsberg and O’Hara wound up in bed together — naked. Both too drunk to get erections, they nuzzled each other, talked poetry, and fell asleep.
Also at the bar the night Ginsberg met O’Hara was the artist Larry Rivers.
The (in)famous cover of the 1974 edition of Selected Poems of Frank O’Hara is a nude portrait of the poet by omnisexual artist Larry Rivers. Recalling his days in Greenwich Village in the 1950s, painter and musician Rivers said, “I liked — you know, boys, girls, animals, dogs, houses — anything.” Rivers and O’Hara met at a party thrown by fellow poet John Ashbery in 1950. “As the party was going on,” Ashbery recalled,” I sort of glanced at one of the windows of my furnished room and I saw two pairs of shoes protruding from the drape, one of them being Frank’s usual white sneakers and the other being Larry Rivers’ shoes.” According to biographer Brad Gooch, O’Hara whispered, “Let’s see what a kiss feels like. … Rivers claims to have felt … as if they were reinventing the kiss…” And another friends-with-benefits” relationship was born.
Pulitzer Prize-winning fiction writer John Cheever suffered from alcoholism, feelings of inadequacy, and conflict about his bisexuality for much of his life. According to biographer Blake Baily, “it was the larky, laughing, casual aspect of male sex that seemed to appeal most.” Cheever wrote, “What I seem to want is a means to get my rocks off with the least inconvenience, a degree of sentimentality and some decent jokes.”
In 1979, he approached composer Ned Rorem for one of these “larks.” Feeling “lonely and lost,” he contacted Rorem and told him he needed to see him immediately and got an invitation to lunch. Sensing something might be up, Rorem asked his partner to join them. Cheever “arrived early, stepped inside the door and dropped his pants, protesting his loneliness as he chased Rorem around the apartment.” “‘Please come out!’ he cried, when Rorem locked himself in the bathroom. ‘I’ll be good!’” Rorem sat with Cheever (who still had his pants down) until Rorem’s partner, Jim Holmes, arrived, after which, “John forgot about me for the rest of his life.”
After discussing Cheever’s loneliness over lunch that day, he asked Holmes to hold him and called Rorem the next day to see if he’d mind if Cheever gave Holmes a call. Holmes (feeling lonely himself and overshadowed by his famous composer boyfriend) and Cheever went on to have a series of trysts in various upscale New York hotels, like The Plaza. “Suppose I went to his house and made passes at his spouse while at table with them both?” Rorem asked in his diary.